Have you ever considered how many people live their lives obeying someone else’s rules and provide an explanation for any decision they make? Have you ever thought that you could be from these people?
You will never be able to please everyone. Neither you can satisfy people’s expectations. The earlier you realize this ugly truth, the better off you’ll be. Otherwise, you will only continue to lose energy as you strive to live up to the rules of others.
The only people who deserve to stay in touch with you are the members of your family and your friends. But even with them, everything should be within reasonable limits. If you sometimes think someone deserves an explanation, give it to them, but do not feel obliged to do so. Especially when it comes to the following things:
#1. Your priorities
We are all people with different dreams, goals, and values, and it is perfectly reasonable also to have different priorities. You have to keep in mind that you have the right to decide what is most important to you and what to put on the list of your priorities. It does not require an explanation.
You choose with whom and how you want to spend your time. You should not feel guilty about not fitting in with one’s expectations – you have the full right to live your life under your own rules.
#2. Do not say “sorry” without really having it in mind
Apologizing to someone without really regretting your words or actions is like trying to drive a car without a motor, it won’t take you anywhere.
Many people apologize just to end a dispute, but that’s not worth it. When sorrow does not come from your soul, your apology is of no value because nothing will change. If you do not feel guilty about something that someone accuses you of, then don’t bother to apologize.
#3. Your way of life
You are single, divorced, you still live with your parents, or you look homeless when you go to the nearby store – so what? All these things are your own personal choice. If you feel good about your own life and do not harm anyone, then everything is fine.
Forget social norms and live in a way that makes you feel satisfied. If you prefer to live with your soul mate, without a traditional marriage, raise your children that way – it does not make you less reliable, less valuable, and is not something you owe an explanation for.
#4. Do not agree with something you do not want to
Hear others, pay attention to their tips, and analyze the things they say to you, but do not let the people around you shout to mute your own voice.
Speak your mind and get rid of the weight of the hidden words. You do not always have to say “yes,” especially if you mean “no” (sounds logical, but real situations are not that easy, right?). People who have understood the art of denial are happier because they rarely do something they don’t want to do.
#5. The need for time for yourself
The fear that they will take you for antisocial, selfish, or arrogant – this is something many people have faced at some point in their lives. And that’s perfectly normal. We are created to live in a society, in a group, and the process of socialization is vital to every individual.
But that does not mean you can’t spend some time alone. Some people need to stay alone with their thoughts, to be only in their own company. You do not owe an explanation for the fact that you want to stay home and read a good book instead of going out. If you need to be alone, do it and do not regret it.
#6. Your appearance
Brunette or blonde, with or without tattoos – it’s your body, and it belongs to you. You have the right to decide what to do with it.
If there is something you do not like about yourself and want to change, do it – you do not owe anyone explanations about your decisions since it affects only yourself. The world is colorful, and therein lies the fascination. How annoying would it be if we were all the same?
#7. Your religious, sexual, and political preferences
You have the right to form an opinion about every sphere of life. No matter if it’s about religion, politics, or sexuality. You are free to decide whether you will pray to Jesus or to Buddha. No one can oblige you to do anything – everything comes down to your personal choice, for which you do not owe an explanation.